Having plastic surgery is a deeply personal decision, so feeling uncomfortable talking about it with family and friends is understandable. It can be hard to share the emotions that come with your decision. More likely, you’re just not sure how everyone will take the news.

Maybe you think (or know for a fact) that some of those close to you have negative opinions about plastic surgery and you don’t want to deal with any criticism or judgment. You might be afraid of how your kids will react. Some women fear their husbands will dismiss what they want and insist, “I like you just the way you are.” For men, talking about plastic surgery is especially difficult because there’s still more stigma attached to it for men than for women.

Remember that you’re doing this for yourself. You deserve to feel the way you want to feel, so it shouldn’t matter what everyone else thinks. But you do have to deal with family and friends, and you should want to tell them because they are your support network. My best advice is to be honest with them so that you can involve them in the process. Plus, telling others can be a relief—if others know, you don’t have to hide anything.

When you do open up, you might even discover that more people than you thought have had cosmetic surgery themselves! If I hadn’t asked my mom if I could have a rhinoplasty, I never would have known that she had one at my age and completely understood why I wanted it. Maybe someone in your own family had surgery and will understand, too.

If you’re concerned about negative comments and opinions, take some time to reflect on your own thoughts and reasoning so that you can confidently share your perspective. You may even want to prepare your responses before you start talking with friends and family. Think about the following:

• How do your friends and family feel about plastic surgery and people who want it?
• Does anyone fear for your safety during the surgery?
• Might your partner be concerned that having surgery could change your relationship (because you’ll be more beautiful or look younger)?
• Does anyone think that it’s frivolous to spend money on plastic surgery?
• Do you fear that others will criticize or judge you?
• Are you concerned that people won’t understand your reasons for wanting surgery?
• Are you afraid that everyone will advise you to not have surgery (and possibly tell horror stories)?
• Are you afraid that people will shame you for being vain?

Thinking about these questions and planning your responses can help you decide who to tell and how to answer negative reactions if you encounter them. It will also give you the confidence you need to tell others. Having surgery can be stressful, and you don’t need more stress from those you hope will support you. Be sure to tell them you’re doing it for yourself and no one else, and that you want and need their support. Sometimes, that’s all they need to hear!

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